it's okay to ask for what you want

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I really like getting flowers. I love it, actually. Whenever I get flowers, I feel like I’m in a 500 Days of Summer dreamy love scene.

It’s not just the moment you get them and open the card. It’s everything that leads up to it, and everything that follows.

Someone is thinking about you. Your person, your parent, your friends — anyone feeling something nice towards you. They’re just sat there thinking about YOU. Come on.

And they go, “you know what, I’m gonna get T flowers. I bet she’ll like that.” Then they make the first move. Where to get them? At a flower shop? A grocery store? Online and schedule their delivery later this week? Online and rush them for today?

Then they sit there and PICK THEM OUT. THEY ARE LITERALLY PICKING FLOWERS FOR YOU. I just think that is one of the cutest, most humany moments of all time. They’re looking at flowers, which — so cute already. But they’re looking at them for you. What colors? What kinds? How do they smell? How do they look? Should I go more or less? Dense or flowy?

Ooooh. Those. Yep.

Then they write a note, short or long, that tries to capture the reason they just picked flowers for you like a grade-schooler. How fucking CUTE.

They buy/send/ship/schedule/stick them in their passenger seat and wish they invented flower-specific seat belts, but they didn’t so they’re watching over them through every turn as if they grew them themselves.

Then, they give you flowers. Just think about how cute that is. Another person on this planet is giving you flowers. They’re giving you a thing that grew out of dirt and now looks pretty and smells pretty and means a whole lot. And they’re standing there with their little gift which is actually their whole heart and saying “hi, I got you flowers. do you like them?'“

Come. On.

Last night, I asked my girlfriend if she’d get me flowers soon. Life has been crazy so it’s been a minute, and she wouldn’t have known I missed it if I didn’t tell her.

She smiled and laughed and said, “of course!”

And now I’m very excited for my person to pick me out some flowers.

It’s good to know what you like, whether it’s flowers or something like it. It’s good to know what you want, and what makes your heart go “woah people are cute. i must be too.”

And it’s the very goodest to ask for what you want.

Sending you flowers.